A couple lost in love will soon find out that bliss doesn't extend to every aspect of their lives. It's one thing to decide to get married. It's another entirely to get into the planning stages for the big event.
Even the most simplistic of weddings comes with a whole lot of decisions that need making. It's not as easy as setting a date and showing up. There are literally hundreds of small details that need attending to and choices that pop up every step of the way.
Before even enlisting the help of friends, family or a wedding planner, a couple should set a few rules of the road. It is very easy for others to get involved and try and take over. While this is appreciated in some cases, it might result in a day that doesn't come close to resembling what the couple wants.
To avoid this, the first thing a couple should do after setting a date is to sit down to discuss the general details a little more clearly.
What does each person envision for their perfect wedding?
Are there any particular details that are must haves?
Are there things about weddings that one passionately hates?
Since it is very likely the groom will back out of planning the nitty, gritty details, having a solid idea for direction from the start can really help the bride out immensely. It is very important for him to be open to questioning here and for her to understand that he might not have strong opinions on every detail. This doesn't mean he doesn't care, it just means he thinks she's more capable of picking out the right colors, flowers, dresses and even cake.
With that said, it is still important for him to get involved as much as he can. Helping with the decisions, running around, shopping and even in the invitation writing can make the entire process go much more smoothly.
To help out, couples should create a list of their must haves, things they are willing to compromise on and also everything that needs to be done. From picking out the date and the location of the festivities to booking the food, flowers, photographer and even bakery/Cake, there will be a lot of things on that list.
If a wedding planner's assistance is being used, this stage will likely go a whole lot more smoothly. He or she will do most of the legwork, but it will still be up to the couple to make the choices - or it should be.
Once the basic direction has been set or at least mostly set, it's likely time for a couple to enlist a little aid. A wedding is also a very special time for friends and family. Whether the mother of the bride will be assisting, a friend or even a wedding planner, now's the time to get them involved.
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